What would you think if your partner doesn’t makes noises like, ‘Oh yeah, yes yes, again, Oh my god, oh, amazing, Oh right there,’? You might think she’s not enjoying or you are not good enough to her scream.
That’s the thing TV, movies and porn teaches us about sex, if a person doesn’t makes any sound then its not good but think over it again!.
When it comes to the way sex sounds, sexologist Megan Stubbs, EdD, blames both porn and rom-coms for the “louder is hotter” mentality that many people seem to carry. “Often in TV shows and movies, sex is really loud like, ‘Oh my god, oh, amazing. Oh, right there,’ and sometimes overdone,” she says.
Some people really do sound like that while they’re in the moment, but if you’re the kind of person who stays quiet in bed or who can’t moan with pleasure, then you might get the idea that you’re doing it wrong.
“Do whatever feels right for you, and don’t feel like you have to start moaning and talking dirty if that’s not your nature,” Dr. Stubbs says.
There are plenty Nonverbal cues to show your partner that you’re having a good time. That means things like arching your back up into your partner, looking into their eyes, grabbing their butt and pulling them into you if you’re having penetrative sex, and other body responses, says Sadie Allison, PhD, AASECT-certified sexologist.
“Use your hands, use your legs, get into positions where you can push your breasts up against him or her so you’re really expressing the closeness and how whatever you guys are doing together is making you feel,” she says.
“Panting and getting out of breath is a way to express yourself,” Dr. Allison says. “And it’s a super turn on to the other person, because it really sounds like you’re into it.”